Have you ever felt like something was just… off? Like no matter how hard you hustle, how many to-do lists you check off, or how many roles you play perfectly, there’s this strange emptiness lurking in the background? I’ve been there—feeling like I was running on fumes, chasing some invisible finish line that never seemed to arrive. And the worst part? I didn’t even realize what was missing until I hit one of those “bathroom floor” moments (you know the ones)—completely burned out, emotionally flatlined, and wondering how I ended up so disconnected from myself.

It wasn’t until I started exploring the idea of feminine energy that I realized what had been missing all along. Like many women, I had spent years disconnected from my Divine Feminine, that sacred, powerful, intuitive side of me that I’d unknowingly buried under societal expectations, self-doubt, and, honestly, a lot of survival tactics. The result? A life that looked fine on the surface but felt hollow underneath.

If this resonates with you, you’re not alone. So many of us are out here trying to thrive in a world that pushes us to suppress our feminine essence and lean into masculine energy instead. And while there’s nothing wrong with being logical, driven, and structured (I still love my spreadsheets!), when those qualities take over and leave no room for softness, creativity, or connection, we lose something vital.

The Real-Life Problems of Disconnecting from the Divine Feminine

Let me paint a picture of what this disconnection can look like in everyday life. It shows up in small, sneaky ways—like that nagging sense of dissatisfaction, even when you’re “winning” by everyone else’s standards. Or the exhaustion that comes from constantly pushing yourself to be productive, even when your soul is screaming for rest.

For me, it looked like being “the reliable one,” always on top of things, always in control. I prided myself on being the person people turned to for solutions. But the cost? I was so out of touch with my emotions that I didn’t even realize I’d become numb to joy, sadness, or anything in between. I was a robot—efficient, sure, but completely disconnected from myself.

And let’s talk about relationships. Oh boy. When you’re disconnected from your feminine energy, intimacy gets tricky. I treated dating like a job interview, complete with mental checklists and zero emotional vulnerability. Needless to say, this approach didn’t exactly lead to deep, meaningful connections.

Then there’s the physical toll. Stress, tension, and burnout were my constant companions. My body was always stiff, my mind was always racing, and my skin was perpetually breaking out (hello, stress acne). I didn’t realize that this “hyper-masculine” way of living—always doing, never being—was wreaking havoc on my health.

But maybe the most heartbreaking part of it all was how disconnected I felt from my own intuition. I used to have those gut feelings, those quiet nudges that guide you toward what’s right for you. But after years of ignoring them in favor of “rational” decisions, it was like my inner voice had gone silent.

Why We Disconnect from the Divine Feminine

So, how did we get here? Why do so many of us feel cut off from this powerful, sacred part of ourselves?

For starters, we live in a world that glorifies masculine energy. Productivity, logic, competition, and control are celebrated, while rest, intuition, creativity, and flow are often dismissed as “woo-woo” or impractical. From a young age, many of us are taught that being emotional is a weakness, that success means grinding 24/7, and that our worth is tied to how much we achieve.

And then there’s the trauma piece. For many women, the disconnection from the feminine isn’t just societal—it’s personal. Past wounds, whether from relationships, family dynamics, or even generational patterns, can cause us to suppress our feminine energy as a way to protect ourselves. I know that was true for me. My over-reliance on logic and structure wasn’t random—it was a defense mechanism I built after years of feeling unsafe in my emotions.

Finally, let’s talk about the pressure to “do it all.” Modern women are expected to juggle careers, relationships, families, and self-care while looking flawless and staying calm through it all. It’s exhausting. And in the chaos of trying to meet these impossible standards, we lose touch with the softer, slower, more intuitive parts of ourselves.

Reconnecting with the Divine Feminine

So, what’s the fix? How do we reconnect with this lost part of ourselves and bring balance back into our lives? I’ll be honest—it’s not an overnight transformation. Reclaiming your feminine energy is a process, one that requires patience, curiosity, and a willingness to get a little uncomfortable. But trust me, it’s worth it.

Here are some things that helped me on my journey:

1. Give Yourself Permission to Rest

This one was hard for me. I used to feel guilty anytime I wasn’t being productive, like I was somehow failing if I wasn’t checking things off my to-do list. But rest isn’t lazy—it’s necessary. Start small: take a nap, watch the sunset, or spend an afternoon doing absolutely nothing. It’s amazing how much clarity and creativity can come from simply slowing down.

2. Reconnect with Your Body

For years, I saw my body as a machine—something to be optimized, controlled, and fixed when it wasn’t “perfect.” But the feminine thrives on connection with the body, not domination over it. I started with gentle practices like yoga and dancing (in my living room, with no one watching). Slowly, I began to appreciate my body for what it could feel and experience, not just how it looked.

3. Follow Your Intuition

This one took time. After years of ignoring my gut feelings, I had to relearn how to trust them. A simple practice that helped was asking myself, “What feels right?” instead of “What makes the most sense?” It’s a subtle shift, but it opened the door to a deeper connection with my inner wisdom.

4. Embrace Creativity

I used to think creativity was only for artists. Spoiler: it’s not. Creativity is about expressing yourself in any way that feels good—writing, cooking, gardening, whatever. For me, it was journaling. Getting my thoughts out on paper felt like clearing mental clutter and making room for something new.

5. Heal Old Wounds

This one’s not easy, but it’s essential. I had to face the parts of me that were still carrying pain, fear, and resentment. Working with a therapist and exploring trauma healing practices (like somatic work) helped me let go of the armor I’d built around my heart.

The Beauty of Balance

Today, I’m still a work in progress (and probably always will be). But I can honestly say I feel more connected to myself than ever before. I’ve learned to balance my masculine and feminine energies—to lean into my logic when I need structure and to flow with my intuition when I need guidance.

The best part? Life feels richer. I laugh more, love deeper, and trust myself in ways I never thought possible. And when those old patterns of overthinking or overworking creep back in, I have the tools to bring myself back to center.

If you’re feeling disconnected from your feminine energy, know this: you’re not broken, and you’re not alone. The Divine Feminine isn’t something you have to “earn” or “achieve”—it’s already within you, waiting to be rediscovered.

So take a deep breath. Slow down. Listen to your inner voice. She’s been there all along, just waiting for you to come home.